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"A household based in north London is looking for an remarkable and experienced instructor to guide their smallest child on his initial journey to turning into an English gentleman."

When reading this post, you might easily skip the phrase "beginning" as mere a turn of phrase.

Yet, it may be the most important aspect of this unique position posting, as it seeks to find a tutor for a infant.

Hundreds of responses have already been submitted since the anonymous family posted their call for the highly paid tutor, who must be "an exceptional individual".

During the past few weeks, the post has received interest throughout the news, with many wondering why?

Progressive Approach

Adam Caller, CEO and founder of a global tutoring firm, which is helping the family in their hunt, explained that notwithstanding first doubt, he viewed the concept "far sighted", and "innovative".

When he spoke with the family, he said they appreciated the unconventional aspect of their requirement, and how early in age their son is.

However, they stated that they "didn't want to wait any longer" to engage a tutor, as they had postponed until their older child was five, and by that stage "cultural influence had by then set in".

What precisely did the family refer to by "cultural bias"?

It's "everything", he responded. "How you eat, the manner you speak".

He explained the firstborn had picked up "extremely delicate, unspoken signals" from the family, and had adopted their cultural ways. The family told him they hoped to prevent history to repeat itself with their new baby.

The intention: To hire a British tutor, who should speak with standard English accent, to shape the baby from day one.

Subtle Influence

"A great deal of the development at the beginning here is rather osmotic," stated the CEO.

It's by means of this osmosis that the family are expecting the child will acquire the British traits they aim to instil.

The consultant explained the tutor must be an individual who studied at "the right kinds of schools – the same kinds of schools as the family aspire to send their son to".

"The tutor just has to be the suitable individual, they'll be performing things they aren't even aware they're doing, simply by nature," he added.

Expense Not a Factor

The family informed Adam the successful candidate should preferably also have knowledge of or interest in horse riding, winter sports, artistic pursuits and music so as to shape the child in a diverse set of passions.

More than that though, he said the family wanted the tutor to enrol the child on a range of classes so the child would be "equestrian training and starting an instrument by the time they are around three years old".

In the family's perspective, assisting their son become a "English gentleman" will lead to accomplishment and open doors.

"Taking into account the rights and wrongs of that, because it's certainly a social class indicator," he notes.

But, notwithstanding all this guidance in "Britishness", might the child pick up what is termed cultural influence from the international family he is raised by regardless?

"Certainly", answered he. "The family know this may not work, but they've just taken the attitude of, 'we should try and let's go as quickly as we can', because the expense of it is irrelevant," he said.

Idealistic and Unrealistic

There are some in the education sector who share similar reservations.

An education leader, head and founder of a tutoring service, who supplies individual instructors, stated that "the process of embracing two identities, or indeed, becoming oneself, is something that must be grown into, not manufactured."

The expert wrote that he had moved from the Far East to the UK at the age of seven, and had been educated understanding and practicing dual heritages. He progressed to learn at a prestigious UK institution.

"The concept that one individual can serve as a embodiment of UK identity, a person who can possibly transfer the attributes of a English gentleman upon a 12-month-old child, appears idealistic and unfeasible," he wrote.

"In my experience, employing a typically UK tutor from early childhood will does not necessarily produce the goal they want.

"I wasn't provided with such a figure, and nevertheless I have been lucky enough to enjoy numerous of the opportunities they aspire for their son."

He stated: "The reality is, self-identity should not be imposed from the outside influences; it must be selected, and it must be internally driven."

Acquiring Englishness

Naturally, English culture is something the expert thinks can be taught – and marketed.

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